What is a Singularity?
In its simplest form, singularity means infinite.
Singularity describes the moment when normal rules and limits break down, leading to unbounded transformation. Whether in mathematics, physics, or technology, a singularity represents a moment when boundaries vanish and infinite potential emerges.
Where Numbers Break: Infinity in Mathematics
In math, a singularity occurs when equations break down. Take dividing by zero as an example. When you divide anything by zero, it creates undefined, infinite results. If you haven’t seen this, try it on your calculator. This breakdown represents a singularity, a point where normal rules no longer apply and the results have no limits.
The Universe’s Infinite Extremes: Black Holes and the Big Bang
In physics, singularities mark extraordinary phenomena where the laws of space and time break down.
For instance, a black hole forms when a massive star collapses into a single point of infinite density. This is a singularity where gravity becomes so intense that space and time cease to function as we understand them. Nothing, not even light, can escape its pull.
Similarly, scientists theorize that the Big Bang, which created our universe, originated from a singularity. An infinitely dense point expanded into a force that drives the continuous expansion of the universe. Galaxies are moving away from each other at an accelerating rate, stretching the very fabric of space. Scientists hypothesize that this relentless expansion is driven by something called dark energy, a force so vast and boundless that it defies limits.
Singularities like black holes and the Big Bang illustrate how moments of infinity defy boundaries, giving rise to forces that reshape the fabric of existence. They remind us that singularities are not just points of collapse or origin but gateways to limitless transformation, expanding the universe in ways we are only beginning to grasp.
Technology’s Evolution to Infinity
In technology, singularity is a metaphor for the exponential growth that is transforming life as we know it.
Take Moore’s Law. It accurately predicted that the microchips powering computers and other devices would double in power every two years while getting smaller and cheaper. Years ago, computers filled entire buildings. Today, the smartphone in your pocket has exponentially more processing power than those massive machines. This growth shows no sign of stopping. It is accelerating without limits, continually expanding and transforming.
Futurist Ray Kurzweil predicts that artificial intelligence will match human intelligence by 2029 and surpass it by 2045. He calls this moment the technological singularity, a tipping point where the growth of technology becomes uncontrollable and irreversible. At that point, machines won’t just assist us; they will innovate independently, driving advancements that will redefine society and humanity.
We are already seeing this transformation unfold. AI is designing life-saving drugs in days instead of years. Nanotechnology is repairing damaged cells at the molecular level, and genetic engineering is curing hereditary diseases like sickle cell anemia. Beyond health, brain-machine interfaces now allow people to control devices with their thoughts. AI-powered tools are revolutionizing weight loss. Neural implants are enabling humans to connect directly to the cloud, gaining instant access to knowledge, new skills, and superhuman abilities.
Technology is not just advancing. It is expanding infinitely, reshaping what it means to be human.
The Conundrum: Unlocking Your Inner Singularity
As technology accelerates, humans are stagnating. Social media algorithms and endless doom scrolling are stealing your critical thinking and meaningful growth, leaving us collectively dumber and more divided. While machines push boundaries and create infinite possibilities, we are becoming passive spectators of our own evolution.
The urgent call to action is to create your own inner singularity. There is no limit to how much you can expand your wisdom, nervous system, resilience, and consciousness. Because there is no limit to how much you can grow, it becomes your personal singularity. It is the point where you transition from finite to infinite.
This isn’t just a suggestion, this is an urgent call to action in order to maintain your humanity in this rapidly evolving world.
Creating your inner singularity begins with expanding your capacity. Capacity is the container that defines how much you can handle, do, have, and be. Everything you experience, your thoughts, emotions, resilience, and growth, is dictated by your capacity. It is not fixed.
Just as your capacity has grown since childhood, it can continue to evolve. But it doesn’t happen by accident. Expanding your capacity requires intention.
You can grow your capacity by yourself, but that is like getting on an elevator to the fifth floor. When you grow your capacity with others, it’s like getting on a rocket ship to outer space.
When you surround yourself with intentional, high-level collaborators you unlock exponential growth that it is simply not possible to achieve on your own. Together, you amplify wisdom, resilience, and creativity, accelerating transformation in unstoppable ways.
This is the power of the singularity circle: a collective force that expands your capacity and opens the door to infinite possibilities. It’s not just about surviving in a rapidly evolving world. It’s about actively shaping a limitless future.
Inner Singularity:
Expanding Your Capacity in the Age of AI
AI is advancing at speeds you can’t even fathom, rewriting the rules of reality in real-time. But what if this new frontier isn’t just technological? What if the only way for humanity to stay relevant is to push your own internal growth beyond every limit you’ve ever known?
This isn’t about catching up to machines; it’s about transcending what it means to be human. It’s time to tap into an inner expansion through connection. It’s your only shot at thriving in a world evolving faster than ever imagined.
In his book The Singularity is Nearer, futurist Ray Kurzweil predicted that artificial intelligence would not just catch up to human intelligence; it would surpass it by 2045, in ways that are out of control and irreversible. And it’s not just theory.
Today, AI is already reshaping the boundaries of what’s possible. Complex processes that used to take years like new drug trials, once decades-long journeys, are now completed in days or even minutes. AI is decoding the human genome, creating custom pharmaceuticals, and developing new, independent languages faster than you ever imagined.
The singularity, as Kurzweil describes, is a point of exponential, boundless growth, much like the phenomenon at the heart of a black hole, a place where space, time, and logic collapse into infinity. When AI reaches this point, every aspect of your life will transform. Your work, your understanding of intelligence, even the way you connect with others will be fundamentally altered.
This isn’t a distant “could happen” scenario; it’s already unfolding right before you. And as AI keeps growing exponentially, you face an urgent question: will you adapt alongside it, or will you become obsolete?
The Cost of Human Stagnation
The average person today spends over seven hours a day online, with much of it scrolling through surface-level content. Social media algorithms, designed to keep you engaged, pull your attention from one brief interaction to another, shifting your focus and reducing your capacity for deep thought.
In this digital landscape, attention spans are shrinking, and many are unintentionally outsourcing critical thinking to algorithms. The outcome is a society where your mental capacity stagnates as AI evolves at warp speed.
This stagnation isn’t just a lifestyle issue; it’s a fundamental human risk. If AI can continually learn, adapt, and develop in increasingly sophisticated ways, shouldn’t you be doing the same? Your ability to focus, think critically, and develop resilience has never been more critical.
In contrast to AI’s exponential rise, many are slipping into habits that limit potential, diverting attention from activities that expand the mind to those that feed short-term cravings for distraction.
Creating an Inner Singularity
But you, too, have boundless potential. You are not a static being, and you have the capacity for limitless growth. The concept of an “inner singularity” is a call to expand your capacity across dimensions mentally, emotionally, physically, intellectually and spiritually. It’s not just about learning new skills but about breaking past the limits you’ve unconsciously set for yourself.
This is where “capacity” comes into play. Think of capacity like a thermostat in a room; it sets the level for what you can handle, achieve, and aspire to. And just like a thermostat, it’s often set by your environment and early experiences. Left unchecked, these settings limit you. But raising your capacity means pushing beyond those inherited limits.
Leaders and innovators who continually expand their own capacity demonstrate this. They build resilience, challenge themselves, and raise the bar for what’s possible. And as they do, they create a ripple effect, inviting you to expand your capacity as well.
The Power of Collective Capacity
One of the quickest ways to grow capacity is by hanging out with the right people. Surrounding yourself with people who are equally committed to pushing limits amplifies your own growth. Napoleon Hill, in his book Think and Grow Rich, noted that every one of the most successful individuals were part of “mastermind” groups, where their shared energy and focus created a compounding effect. This wasn’t just about support; it was about resonance, challenging each other to elevate standards and move past perceived boundaries.
Today, your “inner circle” plays that exact same role for you, whether you have chosen them consciously or unconsciously setting the standard that influences your capacity. When you’re surrounded by people who are driven to grow, you naturally find yourself expanding, taking on new challenges, and increasing your abilities. In this way, collective growth is exponential. A rising tide lifts all boats, and your capacity grows in tandem with those who inspire you.
A Call to Expand
As you look at a future where AI is developing at unprecedented speed, you have an unprecedented opportunity to redefine what it means to be human. Expanding your capacity isn’t about incremental changes; it’s about setting a new standard for growth, one that allows you to thrive in an unpredictable world. This is a lifelong commitment, not a quick fix or a motivational boost, but an ongoing shift that keeps you actively evolving.
Just as AI’s singularity marks a point of no return, you have the potential to reach an inner singularity, tapping into an endless capacity for growth and transformation. By challenging yourself to grow, pushing past your mental and emotional limits, and connecting with those who inspire collective progress, you have the power to shape your role alongside technology.
In the end, the singularity isn’t just a technological milestone; it’s a reminder of the boundless potential you hold. It’s a call to expand, to rise to the challenges ahead, and to embrace a future that you actively shape rather than passively observe.
As AI rewrites reality at speeds beyond imagination, your most immediate, powerful step isn’t a complex practice. It’s surrounding yourself with people who believe in you, who push you higher, who expand what you see as possible. By choosing to be with those who uplevel you, you’ll unlock your own boundless capacity. Your inner expansion begins now, not with a drastic routine change, but with the people who make you better, stronger, and ready for an unpredictable future.
Your Circle Is Your Mirror
Look at the five people you spend the most time with. That is your future.
This isn’t just an idea. It’s a measurable, proven fact.
Your income, mindset, habits, and even your emotional resilience are being shaped, right now, by the people around you. If you want to know where you’re headed, look at your closest circle. They are either reinforcing your growth or reinforcing your limits.
The Science Behind Your Circle
Nicholas Christakis and James Fowler conducted a 32-year study on social networks and found something staggering:
- If a close friend becomes obese, you are 57% more likely to gain weight even if you don’t live near them.
- If your friend’s friend smokes, you are 36% more likely to pick up smoking even if you’ve never met that person.
- If your close circle is happy and thriving, your likelihood of happiness increases by 25% even if nothing else in your life changes.
Your circle dictates your reality.
This isn’t just about health or finances. It’s about everything. Your brain is wired for social mirroring, meaning it subconsciously adapts to the patterns, habits, and energy of those around you.
If the people around you stress about money, you will find yourself making fear-based decisions.
If they thrive in uncertainty, you will start seeing opportunity instead of obstacles.
If they complain and blame, your brain will scan for problems.
If they solve problems and take action, you will start seeing solutions.
Your Environment Always Wins
You do not need to force yourself to think bigger, handle more, or be more confident. You just need to get in the right room.
Your nervous system is constantly tuning itself to the energy, beliefs, and habits of those around you. It’s like a tuning fork. When a stronger vibration is introduced, the weaker one naturally adjusts to match it.
This is why being intentional about your inner circle is the fastest way to expand your capacity.
It’s Not About Cutting People Out. It’s About Adding the Right People In
Most people think growth is about doing more, pushing yourself harder, setting bigger goals, and forcing yourself to change. But true expansion happens through resonance.
When you surround yourself with people who operate at a higher frequency, who embody success, resilience, and clarity, you rise to match them.
This is the power of a Singularity Circle. It is not networking. It is not self-improvement through sheer effort. It is resonance.
And when you are surrounded by people who are playing at the level you want to reach, everything about your life changes.
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The One Shift That Removes Every Limitation
You are never stuck. You are only ever at the edge of your capacity.
Nothing is ever wrong. You are just experiencing something outside of your capacity.
That task that’s easy for you but impossible for your employee? You have the capacity for it, and she does not.
The news is stressing you out of your mind, but your husband is unfazed by it? He has capacity for it, and you do not.
Every single thing you think, do, have, and experience is dictated by your capacity. Your capacity is your internal setpoint for what you can hold and handle in life.
When your capacity is limited, even the smallest disruptions overwhelm you. When your capacity is expanded, those exact same challenges don’t even make you blink.
The good news is your capacity isn’t fixed. You can grow it endlessly. But there’s one critical shift you need to make first.
Your Internal Thermostat
Think of your capacity like the thermostat in your house. If the thermostat is set to 68 degrees, it will constantly adjust to keep the temperature at 68, no matter if there’s a heatwave or a blizzard outside.
Your capacity works the same way. It’s your internal setpoint for how much you can handle in life. Sometimes it works to protect you from things that could hurt you, and other times it limits you from experiencing the things you want.
For example, if you keep trying to get ahead, grow your business, save money, or build a healthy relationship but keep hitting a wall, it’s not because you’re bad, weak, or unlucky. It’s simply that your setpoint isn’t set to allow those things into your life.
No matter what, your setpoint is dictating your actual and your perceived reality.
How Your Capacity Was Formed
Your capacity wasn’t chosen by you. It was shaped by your life experiences, your environment, the people around you, and even the media and information you consume.
If you grew up surrounded by dysfunction and chaos, your capacity was set to expect more of the same. Without realizing it, you seek out stress and chaos because that’s your setpoint. Peace, abundance, and calm are foreign in that container, so you unconsciously steer clear of them, even though you desperately want them.
This isn’t logical or conscious. It is about resonance. Like a tuning fork resonating with another tuning fork.
Alternatively, if you grew up with encouragement, love, and support, your setpoint was set to expect those things, and you’ll naturally resonate with relationships and experiences that give you encouragement, love, and support.
These patterns are running your life right now.
Think of it like this. Say your capacity is the size of a coffee cup. It doesn’t take much to fill it up and overflow. A diagnosis, a job loss, your partner leaving, your teenager glaring at you for chewing. Any of these things can push you over the edge. Overwhelm takes over, and there’s no room for anything else. This is when you overthink, ruminate, self-medicate, get sick, and stress-eat.
Now imagine your capacity is the size of Lake Tahoe. Those same challenges can show up, but they take up only a tiny space in the vast body of water. The Lake-Tahoe-size-you has massive amounts of room for all of it, but there’s also room for so much more. More calm, wisdom, resilience, abundance, and creative solutions. In this expanse, every answer to every question you have ever had is already there, the trauma from your past can be there but it doesn’t hijack your every thought, your creativity and joy comes out to play.
And the best part is, you don’t have to stop at the size of Lake Tahoe. There is no limit to how much you can expand your internal capacity.
What You Can and Cannot Control
Spoiler alert: You cannot control anything outside of you. Not your kids, the economy, your boss, traffic, and not even your millionaire landlord threatening to bankrupt you and take your home because you had to shut down your restaurant during the Pandemic.
You can’t even control your own perceptions and emotions. Think of the last time you were overwhelmed and someone told you to “just relax.” Did that ever work? Of course not. If you could control your emotions you would.
The only thing you can control is your capacity. Here is where you have to train yourself to make the shift. When your capacity is the size of a thimble, your emotions will feel overwhelming. When your capacity is the size of the Pacific Ocean, those same emotions take up only a tiny fraction of the range of emotions you can experience.
The approximately Fifty Billion Dollar self-help industry would like you to believe that you have to fix what is outside of you to feel happy. If you just chant this mantra, take that supplement, download this app, attend yet another retreat, your life will be healed. If that approach was truly working, wouldn’t the demand be shrinking instead of the industry growing exponentially every year?
But more importantly, looking outside of you is like putting your hand on a hot stove then taking pain killers to make the burning stop. In order to make the burning stop, you have to take your hand off the stove. Growing your capacity is taking your hand off the stove.
I’m not suggesting you ignore what’s going on around you. You still have to pay your bills, go to work, and hire an attorney to answer your landlord’s lawsuit. But the way you will handle and perceive these things is drastically different depending on if you are coming from a place of limited capacity vs expanded capacity.
So the goal is this.
Any time something comes at you that disrupts your peace or confidence, first look inside and ask yourself these questions:
- Am I feeling calm and grounded, or am I tense and reactive?
- Am I breathing deeply, or is my breath shallow and tight?
- Do I feel clear and focused, or am I confused and scattered?
- Am I approaching this with a sense of control, or am I feeling overwhelmed?
- What small action can I take right now to create more space in my nervous system?
These questions guide you to check in with your body and nervous system before reacting to external challenges.
When you train yourself to live from this place of self-awareness you reach a truly awesome state of expansion and personal power.
Make that your habit.
How to Grow Your Capacity
There are endless ways to grow your capacity, but the most powerful and effortless one is this: Surround yourself with people and things that expand you.
The fastest way to grow your capacity is not by doing it alone. Surround yourself with people who are where you want to be, not where you are, and definitely not below where you are.
People who complain, stress, and gossip will pull you down to their level. That’s where you’ll resonate, like a tuning fork. People and information that are at your level will keep you the same. But when you surround yourself with people and inputs that are above your level, that embody the life you want to create, they will pull you upward.
It’s not just people. It’s everything you surround yourself with: the books you read, the shows you watch, the music you listen to, the art you collect. Everything carries energy and influence. When you choose things that resonate at a higher level, you will achieve higher as well.
That one simple act, surrounding yourself with people and things that expand your capacity, has the power to transform your life.
It’s the shift that removes every limit.
“LET THEM” DOESN’T ALWAYS WORK - HERE’S WHAT DOES
Have you ever noticed how quick people are to dismiss your pain?
"Just let it go."
"Stop letting it get to you."
"They're your family. Just forgive them."
Or the subject of Mel Robbins’ best-selling book,"Let Them."
Sometimes, "let them" is easy.
- Your husband wants to wear a pair of shorts you hate? Let him. Not worth the fight.
- A friend keeps canceling plans? Let them. Stop chasting, and invest in relationships with people who show up.
- Co-workers are gossiping? Let them. Their opinions don’t define you.
But some things aren’t that simple.
Sometimes, you would give your right arm to be able to "just let it go." You feel shattered and desperately want the feelings to go away. But sometimes, those feelings have completely hijacked your nervous system, throwing you into fight, flight or freeze. They take away your sense of safety, or even your sense of self.
In moments like this, "let them" doesn’t just fall flat. It makes you feel worse. It makes you feel like you should be able to control your feelings. And when you can’t, you feel guilty. And the sure fire recipe for staying stuck in an unpleasant emotion is the very act of trying to make it stop. By fighting against it, you make sure it stays even more stuck in your nervous system.
So what about the times when "letting them" isn’t possible?
When "Let Them" Isn't an Option
When my sisters and sister-in-law interfered in my family,spreading unbelievable lies, and putting my daughter in harm’s way,"let them" wasn’t an option for me. For over a year, I lived in the most intense state of hell not knowing if my daughter was safe or even alive while they bonded over their lies and making me their shared enemy.
In the face of that level of betrayal and terror, “let them” or “just forgive them” is not on the table.
Or my previous marriage, where I was married to a man who left my daughter and me repeatedly over six years, sometimes for days or weeks, sometimes for months only to come back each time with promises that it would never happen again. The trauma from this ongoing abandonment and crazy making behavior triggered wounds I didn’t even know I had.
If someone had told me to "just let him," it would have made me feel even more stuck. Even more insane.
But in both of these situations, I wasn’t the one who was insane. The situations were insane.
And when the betrayal, abandonment, or trauma runs that deep, even the idea that you should be able to move past your emotions using the "let them" approach can make you even more stuck in self-judgment.
In times like this it does not help to struggle with the idea of what you should or should not be feeling. In times like this, you need more space in your nervous system.
The Only Way Through It
Some things you can’t just let go. But you can always grow bigger than them. This is the key to getting to the other side of anything that has you stuck.
When the capacity in your nervous system is the size of a coffee cup, it doesn’t take much to fill it to the top. Every betrayal, every crisis, and even small irritations will overflow the cup, leaving no space for anything else. With that limited amount of capacity, you feel overwhelmed, you self-medicate, you react, you get sick.
But when you expand your capacity from the size of a coffee cup to the size of a swimming pool, there is room for all the pain that filled up that coffee cup to be there, but you also have room for other things. You cannot make your painful experiences disappear. They happened. And trying to make them disappear just makes them stronger.
But when your capacity is the size of a swimming pool, those painful experiences don’t take up all the space. They are there, but there is also room for more:
- Room for clarity.
- Room for peace.
- Room for wisdom.
- Room for joy.
In this expanded space, you have the ability to see things differently. You can breathe. You can experience things other than the pain.
This isn’t about pretending the pain isn’t real. It’s about creating enough space inside you so that the pain isn’t all that you feel.
Expanding Capacity: The First Step
You can’t force yourself to be okay when you’re not. You can’t wave a magic wand and make intolerable pain go away by saying you have let it go or you have forgiven someone. The only thing you can do is expand your own capacity so that you are bigger than it. Once you do that, then you do have access to things like forgiveness, letting things go, shifting your perspective, and personal empowerment.
But you cannot expand your capacity through willpower. You can expand your capacity through resonance.
The fastest, easiest, and most guaranteed way to start expanding your capacity is by surrounding yourself with people and things that operate at a higher frequency than where you are operating.
How Resonance Works
In physics, a tuning fork causes another object with the same frequency to vibrate.
Humans work the same way.
When you surround yourself with people and influences that operate at a higher level, in mindset, emotional resilience, joy, success, and peace, you naturally start to resonate at their level.
Every single thing you allow into your world either expands or shrinks your capacity.
- If you are constantly around people who complain, play the victim, and drain your energy, that becomes your reality.
- If you are constantly around people who believe in possibility, create solutions, and live in joy, that becomes your reality.
Be intentional about who you let in.
Be intentional about what you watch, read, and listen to.
Every decision either expands or contracts your capacity.
And with every small expansion, you get more space. More breath. More clarity. More freedom.
The more you practice this, the more you grow beyond the size of a coffee cup, to the size of a swimming pool, then to the size of the Pacific Ocean, then to the size of the Milky Way. There is no limit to how much you can expand your own capacity.
And one day, the thing that once consumed you no longer does.
Not because you “let them.”
But because you became bigger than it.
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